One
common feature amongst us as human beings is the desire to be happy. Many
search for happiness in all sorts of ways. Psychology researchers have
attempted to figure out what really makes people happy.
Some
researchers believe that sources of happiness are 50% genetic, 40% within our
power to change, and 10% affected by life circumstances. Sometimes we work with
students who blame the environment for their unhappiness despite a life long
pattern of previous unhappiness. Most of our students come to the realization
that Logan River Academy
does not make them unhappy. Typically we see a gradual shift in personal
ownership as our students figure out how to be genuinely happy.
One
of our theories at Logan
River Academy
is that happiness is connected to living a principles based lifestyle.
We use this model as our major theory of change. We focus on: Honesty, Respect,
Accountability, Fairness, and Caring. We believe that as our students
internalize these principles and live them more fully, they are much more
likely to be happier people.
Happiness
also has much to do with perspective. I attended a workshop many years
ago where the instructor taught us a basic formula: E + R = O (Event + Response
= Outcome). Events are often not under out control. How we respond to events in
our lives directly affects what kinds of outcomes we are getting, including our
happiness level. We are convinced that challenging negative thoughts and replacing
them with more neutral or positive thoughts can bring wonderful results with
one’s level of happiness. This is a skill that takes practice and awareness.
Our perspective can be the single most influential determinant of our level of
happiness.
Another
key element to happiness in our opinion is when one lives in accordance with
his/her defined value system. If this is not happening, we see unbalance,
lack of life symmetry, and inner conflict. Identifying one’s value system and
living according is key!
Lastly,
we believe being able to find humor in day to day life is essential for
happiness. Learning to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes helps. Otherwise, we
may constantly feel insecure or under the spotlight. It’s important to slow
down, pause, and laugh each day.
Matt Erickson, LCSW, Clinical Director
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